32 years and 32 lessons

I turned 32 yesterday and with that I thought I’d share 32 things that my life and relationships have taught/shown me thus far:

  1. You are responsible for your mood and actions. Always.

  2. You should date someone who wants you to be their partner, not their parent.

  3. Boundaries are essential for all healthy and long term relationships (familial, romantic and plutonic).

  4. Your dreams and goals are important, never stop chasing them.

  5. Some people aren’t meant to be in your life forever. Season, reason, lifetime. Learn to get go of the bad ones, quickly.

  6. The company you keep is a direct reflection of you so choose well.

  7. If you can’t say something to someone’s face, don’t say it at all.

  8. You should show love to those you love. Demonstrate it often. It’s not an exclusive emotion or demonstration for romantic partners. Show it freely and show it often.

  9. The frequency of sex doesn’t make a happy relationship.

  10. Jealousy is ugly. Instead of allowing it to fester inside of you learn from it, understand it, grow from it and let it go. It’s a wasted emotion.

  11. Cuddle your friends. Often.

  12. You can be in a relationship and still be independent. Having space for yourself is essential. Don’t smother your partner or let yourself be smothered.

  13. Ambition is nothing without commitment, drive, dedication and follow through. Don’t talk about your dreams if you’re not going to chase them.

  14. Love is a choice. Make it daily.

  15. Just because you’re related to someone by blood doesn’t make them good for your emotional or mental well being. You can exclude family members from your life, especially the toxic ones.

  16. Record people on voice or video for when someone you love is no longer here, one of the first things you’ll forget is their voice. In fact, you’ll long to hear it.

  17. Take photos. All the photos. They’re moments in time you’ll love looking back on.

  18. You will be wrong on more than one occasion. Be mature enough to own those moments and grow as a human, you’re not perfect.

  19. Laughter is the best medicine. Make sure you engage in it daily.

  20. Running your own business is isolating so find like minded people and let them in. They’ll cure your temporary insanity and make you feel less lonely.

  21. Being able to count your closest friends on both hands is something to be grateful for. It’s in the quality, not in the quantity.

  22. Yelling in an argument will ALWAYS make things worse.

  23. Everything personally and professionally rewarding exists on the other side of fear.

  24. If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

  25. You can’t help people who don’t want to be helped and not everyone is your responsibility.

  26. Words are powerful and can’t be taken back once uttered, so be extremely careful with them.

  27. Not all conversations should be had over text. In fact, all important ones should be in person.

  28. Nothing will ever happen as you picture it, that doesn’t make it wrong, it just makes it life.

  29. Only take advice from experts, everyone else is just projecting their own life experience at you and whilst it may have good intentions, more often than not it won’t help you (or your situation) at all.

  30. Karma is real.

  31. Being fit doesn’t mean you’re actually healthy.

  32. Gratitude is the key to true happiness.