You keep walking past the same thing.
You know something's off. Maybe it's the pattern showing up in every relationship. Maybe it's the organisational dynamic everyone feels but no one will say. Maybe it's the thing you keep trying to fix but nothing actually shifts.
That's where I come in.
I see what you're stuck in before you have words for it. I show you the invisible pattern running everything - the dynamic you're caught in, the system creating the same result, the thing that's already dead but you're still trying to keep alive.
Then we change it.
Not through steps or frameworks. Through seeing what's actually true.
I see what you're stuck in.
I notice what's happening for you - the pattern you keep running, the belief you inherited that isn't even yours, the thing that's true but you haven't let yourself say yet.
And I notice what's happening between people before they have words for it. The dynamic no one's naming in your relationship. The pattern running your whole organisation. The power structure everyone's pretending isn't there.
Then I say it in a way that cracks something open.
My work isn't about information or frameworks. It's about being right there with you in a way that actually shifts how you see what's happening, how you relate to each other (or to yourself), and what you can do differently.
The change happens in the room while we're talking.
I see what's already over.
This is what I do best: I can tell when something is already dead but you're still trying to keep it alive.
A relationship dynamic that stopped working months ago. An organisational structure you've outgrown. A way of relating you're clinging to because it's familiar.
I help you see it clearly so you can finally let it go. Because nothing new can grow in that space until you do.
I stop the loops you keep running - whether that's the same argument in different wrapping, or the team dysfunction that keeps surfacing no matter who you hire.
I point out the invisible patterns blocking what you actually want. Then I help you create the conditions for those patterns to dissolve.
I find the pattern running everything.
Most people are trying to fix the symptom. I show you the system creating it.
You've had the "you never listen" fight 47 times - different topics, same dynamic. I show you what you're both protecting by staying stuck there.
Your team keeps underperforming no matter who you hire. I show you the organisational structure that rewards exactly that.
Your relationships keep ending the same way with different people. I show you the inherited pattern you're running without realising it.
I find the invisible rules running your relationship or organisation. The patterns you inherited without choice. The unspoken agreements dictating how things unfold.
Once you see them, you can't unsee them. And then we change them.
This works whether you're a couple rewriting how you relate, or an organisation finally dealing with the power dynamics everyone pretends aren't there.
What I actually fix.
Most relational and organisational problems don't get solved because you're looking at the wrong thing.
You see the symptoms: the same argument in different wrapping paper, team members who keep underperforming, leaders who can't keep staff, relationships that feel finished but won't actually end.
So you try communication workshops, therapy, new hires, strategy sessions. Nothing changes because you're treating the surface while the real problem runs underneath.
The actual problem is the pattern you can't see. The invisible structure governing every interaction and outcome without you realising it.
I make that pattern visible. I show you what's actually happening:
🐍 The emotional logic driving the loop
🦚 The dynamics keeping the system stuck
🐍 The structures you've been unconsciously maintaining
🦚 The specific thing that's already dead but you're still animating
Then we create the conditions for something new to emerge.
This work is for you if:
✓ You keep running the same pattern with different people or teams
✓ Something's dead but you're still trying to keep it alive
✓ Everyone can feel the dysfunction but no one will name it
✓ You're done with surface fixes and ready for structural change
✓ You want to see what you're complicit in creating
✓ You've tried therapy/coaching/workshops and nothing's actually shifted
✓ You're ready to look at what's actually true, not what's comfortable
This is NOT for you if:
✗ You want someone to make you feel better about staying stuck
✗ You're looking for steps, frameworks, or how-to content
✗ You need crisis support or clinical mental health treatment
✗ You want to be told you're right and the other person/system is wrong
✗ You're not willing to examine your own complicity
Work with me.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
You keep ending up in the same dynamic with different people.
Individual Assessment
45 minutes | $495 + GST
We map the patterns you're caught in, the things you're not saying, the places where you're stuck. I show you what's actually happening and what needs to shift.
The assessment is standalone - it doesn't come off your package if you continue. You're paying for clarity, regardless of what happens next.
FOR COUPLES
Something in the relationship is dead and you both know it
Relational Dynamic Assessment
45 minutes | $495 + GST
We map the relationship - the patterns you're caught in, what you're both not saying, where you're stuck. I show you what's actually happening between you and what needs to shift.
The assessment is standalone - it doesn't come off your package if you continue. You're paying for clarity, regardless of what happens next.
FOR BUSINESSES
Your team keeps creating the same problem in different forms
Organisational Culture Assessment
45 minutes | $495 + GST
A diagnostic session where we identify what's not working, uncover the invisible dynamics creating it, and determine if there's a fit for ongoing strategic work.
You'll leave with clarity on what's actually blocking your outcomes and whether a retained engagement makes sense.
The assessment is standalone - it doesn't come off your retainer if you continue. You're paying for clarity, regardless of what happens next.
Who I am.
I didn't learn pattern recognition in a course. It's how I survived my own life.
I'm 38. I've been doing this work for 15 years - examining the invisible patterns running relationships and organisations, naming what's dead, redesigning broken systems.