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You're exhausted from performing the "cool girl" who's fine with everything.
Maybe you pretend to love his music when it makes you want to scream. Maybe you say "I'm not like other girls" while secretly competing with every woman who looks his way. Maybe you're available 24/7 because being "low-maintenance" feels safer than having actual standards.
Or maybe you've gotten so good at being what men want that you've forgotten what you actually want.
This audit is specifically designed for women dating in the heterosexual world - examining the unique ways women contort themselves to be "pickable" in these dynamics.
Built from 14 years of watching women abandon themselves for male approval, this diagnostic reveals exactly where you're performing instead of selecting. From someone who literally married a man before accepting she was queer - I know what it's like to betray yourself trying to fit someone else's script.
36 targeted questions across the areas where pick-me programming runs deepest: authenticity performance, boundary abandonment, sexual compliance, emotional labour, competition with other women, and identity erosion.
You'll discover your specific pick-me profile - whether you're selectively performing in certain areas or running full pick-me programming across your entire dating life.
Then you get some strategies for dating from your authentic self instead of your performed self. Plus specific work on unpacking the internalised misogyny that keeps women competing for scraps.
This isn't dating advice promising to help you "get the guy." It's a reality check showing you where you've been betraying yourself just to be chosen by people who haven't earned access to the real you.
Some of these questions will make you cringe with recognition. That's how you know they're working.
$97 + GST. Digital download. Immediate access.
You're exhausted from performing the "cool girl" who's fine with everything.
Maybe you pretend to love his music when it makes you want to scream. Maybe you say "I'm not like other girls" while secretly competing with every woman who looks his way. Maybe you're available 24/7 because being "low-maintenance" feels safer than having actual standards.
Or maybe you've gotten so good at being what men want that you've forgotten what you actually want.
This audit is specifically designed for women dating in the heterosexual world - examining the unique ways women contort themselves to be "pickable" in these dynamics.
Built from 14 years of watching women abandon themselves for male approval, this diagnostic reveals exactly where you're performing instead of selecting. From someone who literally married a man before accepting she was queer - I know what it's like to betray yourself trying to fit someone else's script.
36 targeted questions across the areas where pick-me programming runs deepest: authenticity performance, boundary abandonment, sexual compliance, emotional labour, competition with other women, and identity erosion.
You'll discover your specific pick-me profile - whether you're selectively performing in certain areas or running full pick-me programming across your entire dating life.
Then you get some strategies for dating from your authentic self instead of your performed self. Plus specific work on unpacking the internalised misogyny that keeps women competing for scraps.
This isn't dating advice promising to help you "get the guy." It's a reality check showing you where you've been betraying yourself just to be chosen by people who haven't earned access to the real you.
Some of these questions will make you cringe with recognition. That's how you know they're working.
$97 + GST. Digital download. Immediate access.