For individuals
You might be here if:
You can articulate your problems brilliantly but can't seem to actually change them
You’ve done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts, know your patterns - and you’re still repeating the same dynamics across different contexts
The same relational patterns show up everywhere: with partners, colleagues, friends, family, even how you relate to money or success
You keep hitting invisible ceilings in your career, relationships, or personal growth—and strategy isn't the issue
Something about how you operate feels fundamentally misaligned with who you're becoming
You're intelligent enough to see the patterns but can't seem to interrupt them at the source
You suspect the problem isn't the specific relationship/job/situation—it's something in how YOU relate to everything
What I’m not.
I'm not a therapist, psychologist, or mental health clinician. I don't diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for mental health conditions. If you're navigating active mental health diagnoses - whether that's depression, anxiety disorders, PTSD, bipolar, or anything else requiring clinical support - I'm not the right person for you. You need someone with the training and credentials to work within that context, and that's not me.
I'm also not here to provide crisis support or manage acute psychological distress. If you're in a mental health crisis, please reach out to a registered psychologist, your GP, or a crisis service like Lifeline (13 11 14).
What I do offer (see more below) is transformation work for people who are fundamentally well but stuck - caught in patterns they can't seem to break, navigating relational dynamics that keep repeating, or trying to shift something in their life or business that feels immovable. If that's you, and you're ready to do the work, I'm here.
What I actually do.
I find the one pattern creating all your problems
People think they have separate "work problems," "relationship problems," "money problems," "family problems." Usually, it's one pattern running all of them.
In our first session, I'm looking for what's underneath: the beliefs about yourself, the ways you protect yourself, and the assumptions you've never questioned that are showing up everywhere in your life.
Examples:
You struggle with boundaries in romantic relationships AND can't say no to clients AND let family overstep constantly. That's not three separate problems. It's one belief about yourself expressing in three places.
You self-sabotage right before breakthrough in your business AND in your intimate relationships AND in your health goals. Same pattern, different stage.
You're attracted to emotionally unavailable partners AND chronically undercharge for your work AND have friendships where you give more than you receive. One pattern, multiple expressions.
I help you see what’s running the show.
Most people think they're making conscious choices about how they relate: to partners, colleagues, money, success, visibility, authority, themselves.
Usually, they're running a programme installed decades ago. I make that programme visible, not to shame it, but to give you the option to consciously change it.
Examples:
You avoid conflict everywhere: at work (don't negotiate), in relationships (suppress needs), with family (keep the peace). I'll show you the belief underneath that (maybe: "Conflict means abandonment" or "My anger is dangerous") and how it's creating all of it.
You chronically over-give in every context: relationships, work, friendships, family. Not because you're "codependent" (reductive), but because somewhere along the line you decided "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." Once we shift that belief, the over-giving stops everywhere at once.
You sabotage success right before breakthrough. Not because of "impostor syndrome," but because visibility triggers an old belief like "Being seen is dangerous" or "Success means betraying where I came from." We dismantle that, and suddenly you can actually receive what you've built.
I change the belief, not just the behaviour.
Change doesn't happen through willpower, "doing better," or behaviour modification. It happens when you shift the belief creating the behaviour.
I help you redesign how you relate to:
Partners and intimacy
Authority and power
Money and success
Family and origin dynamics
Work and professional identity
Yourself and your own needs
Visibility and recognition
Conflict and confrontation
Whatever specific pattern you're stuck in
Examples:
Instead of "setting better boundaries" (performing), we shift the belief to something like "I'm whole without being needed." The boundaries follow naturally everywhere.
Instead of "being more confident" (surface level), we dismantle the belief that "Being powerful means being alone" or "Success makes me a target." Confidence becomes effortless once the belief supports it.
Instead of "learning to receive" (behavioural fix), we address why receiving feels dangerous. Then receiving becomes natural in relationships, money, recognition, support—everywhere.
What we work on
Whatever pattern is keeping you stuck:
Romantic relationships:
🐍 Repetitive partner choices or dynamics
🐍 Intimacy avoidance or enmeshment
🐍 Boundaries, needs, desire, power dynamics
Friendship patterns:
🦚 Over-giving or under-receiving
🦚 Difficulty maintaining closeness or appropriate distance
🦚 Repetitive friend dynamics (always the therapist, always the rescuer, etc.)
Professional/work:
🦚 Chronic undercharging or under-earning
🦚 Visibility resistance or impostor patterns
🦚 Authority issues (with it or claiming it
🦚 Success sabotage or ceiling-hitting
🦚 Team/colleague dynamics that repeat
Relationship to self:
🐍 Self-worth, self-trust, self-abandonment patterns
🐍 Internal critic or harsh self-judgement
🐍 Difficulty making decisions or trusting your knowing
🐍 Relationship to your body, needs, desires
Family/origin patterns:
🐍 Roles you can't escape (caretaker, scapegoat, hero, etc.)
🐍 Boundaries with parents, siblings, extended family
🐍 Inherited beliefs about money, success, relationships, worthiness
Money/success:
🦚 Chronic under-charging relative to skill/value
🦚 Fear of being seen
🦚 Fear of success
🦚 Success immediately followed by sabotage
How we work together.
Individual Assessment | $495 + GST
This is where we start. An assessment session is a deep dive into the patterns, blocks, and systems that are keeping you stuck—whether that’s in your relationships, your work, or how you’re showing up in your own life. We’re not here to fix anything in one conversation. We’re here to see what’s actually going on beneath the surface, so you know what you’re working with.
After your assessment, ongoing work begins with a package:
5-Session Package: $1,875 + GST (paid upfront)
Five 45-minute sessions at $375 + GST each. This package is designed for people ready to do the work over time, with enough sessions to actually shift something rather than just talk about it. Sessions must be used within 12 months of purchase.
Transformation work isn’t built for one-off conversations. If you want to continue after your initial package, we’ll discuss what makes sense and structure another package accordingly.